MAKING
THE FIRST DAY EASIER
- Remind
your child that she is not the only student who is a bit uneasy about
the first day of school. Teachers know that students are anxious and
will make an extra effort to make sure everyone feels as comfortable as
possible.
- Point
out the positive aspects of starting school: It will be fun. She'll see
old friends and meet new ones. Refresh her memory about previous years,
when she may have returned home after the first day with high spirits
because she had a good time.
- Find another child in the
neighborhood with whom your youngster can walk to school or ride with on
the bus.
- If you feel it is appropriate,
drive your child (or walk with her) to school and pick her up on the first
day.
BACKPACK
SAFETY
- Choose a
backpack with wide, padded shoulder straps and a padded back.
- Pack
light. Organize the backpack to use all of its compartments. Pack
heavier items closest to the center of the back. The backpack should
never weigh more than 10 to 20 percent of the student's body weight.
- Always use
both shoulder straps. Slinging a backpack over one shoulder can strain
muscles.
- Consider
a rolling backpack. This type of backpack may be a good choice for
students who must tote a heavy load. Remember that rolling backpacks
still must be carried up stairs, and they may be difficult to roll in
snow.
TRAVELING
TO AND FROM SCHOOL
Review
the basic rules with your youngster:
School Bus
- If
your child’s school bus has lap/shoulder seat belts, make sure your
child uses one at all times when in the bus. If your child’s school bus
does not have lap/shoulder belts, encourage the school to buy or lease
buses with lap/shoulder belts.
- Wait for the bus to stop before
approaching it from the curb.
- Do not move around on the bus.
- Check to see that no other
traffic is coming before crossing.
- Make sure to always remain in
clear view of the bus driver.
Car
- All passengers should wear a
seat belt and/or an age- and size-appropriate car safety seat or booster
seat.
- Your
child should ride in a car safety seat with a harness as long as
possible and then ride in a belt-positioning booster seat. Your child
is ready for a booster seat when she has reached the top weight or
height allowed for her seat, her shoulders are above the top harness
slots, or her ears have reached the top of the seat.
- Your
child should ride in a belt-positioning booster seat until the
vehicle's seat belt fits properly (usually when the child reaches about
4' 9" in height and is between 8 to 12 years of age). This means the
shoulder belt lies across the middle of the chest and shoulder, not the
neck or throat; the lap belt is low and snug across the thighs, not the
stomach; and the child is tall enough to sit against the vehicle seat
back with her legs bent at the knees and feet hanging down.
- All
children under 13 years of age should ride in the rear seat of
vehicles. If you must drive more children than can fit in the rear seat
(when carpooling, for example), move the front-seat passenger’s seat as
far back as possible and have the child ride in a booster seat if the
seat belts do not fit properly without it.
- Remember
that many crashes occur while novice teen drivers are going to and from
school. You should limit the number of teen passengers to prevent
driver distraction; this is even required by law in many states. Do not
allow your teen to drive while eating, drinking, or talking on a cell
phone.
Bike
- Always wear a bicycle helmet,
no matter how short or long the ride.
- Ride on the right, in the same
direction as auto traffic.
- Use appropriate hand signals.
- Respect traffic lights and stop
signs.
- Wear bright color clothing to
increase visibility.
- Know the "rules of the
road."
Walking to School
- Make
sure your child's walk to a school is a safe route with well-trained
adult crossing guards at every intersection.
- Be
realistic about your child's pedestrian skills. Because small children
are impulsive and less cautious around traffic, carefully consider
whether or not your child is ready to walk to school without adult
supervision.
- Bright colored clothing will
make your child more visible to drivers.
EATING
DURING THE SCHOOL DAY
- Most
schools regularly send schedules of cafeteria menus home. With this
advance information, you can plan on packing lunch on the days when the
main course is one your child prefers not to eat.
- Try
to get your child's school to stock healthy choices such as fresh
fruit, low-fat dairy products, water and 100 percent fruit juice in the
vending machines.
- Each
12-ounce soft drink contains approximately 10 teaspoons of sugar and
150 calories. Drinking just one can of soda a day increases a child's
risk of obesity by 60%. Restrict your child's soft drink consumption.
BULLYING
Bullying
is when one child picks on another child repeatedly. Bullying can be
physical, verbal, or social. It can happen at school, on the
playground, on the school bus, in the neighborhood, or over the
Internet.
When
Your Child Is Bullied
- Help your child learn how to
respond by teaching your child how to:
1. Look the bully in the eye.
2. Stand tall and stay calm in a difficult situation.
3. Walk away.
- Teach your child how to say in
a firm voice.
1. "I don't like what you are doing."
2. "Please do NOT talk to me like that."
3. "Why would you say that?"
- Teach your child when and how
to ask for help.
- Encourage your child to make
friends with other children.
- Support activities that
interest your child.
- Alert school officials to the
problems and work with them on solutions.
- Make
sure an adult who knows about the bullying can watch out for your
child's safety and well-being when you cannot be there.
When
Your Child Is the Bully
- Be sure your child knows that
bullying is never OK.
- Set firm and consistent limits
on your child's aggressive behavior.
- Be a positive role mode. Show
children they can get what they want without teasing, threatening or
hurting someone.
- Use effective, non-physical
discipline, such as loss of privileges.
- Develop
practical solutions with the school principal, teachers, counselors,
and parents of the children your child has bullied.
When
Your Child Is a Bystander
- Tell your
child not to cheer on or even quietly watch bullying.
- Encourage your
child to tell a trusted adult about the bullying.
- Help
your child support other children who may be bullied. Encourage your
child to include these children in activities.
- Encourage your
child to join with others in telling bullies to stop.
BEFORE
AND AFTER SCHOOL CHILD CARE
- During
middle childhood, youngsters need supervision. A responsible adult
should be available to get them ready and off to school in the morning
and watch over them after school until you return home from work.
- Children
approaching adolescence (11- and 12-year-olds) should not come home to
an empty house in the afternoon unless they show unusual maturity for
their age.
- If
alternate adult supervision is not available, parents should make
special efforts to supervise their children from a distance. Children
should have a set time when they are expected to arrive at home and
should check in with a neighbor or with a parent by telephone.
- If
you choose a commercial after-school program, inquire about the
training of the staff. There should be a high staff-to-child ratio, and
the rooms and the playground should be safe.
DEVELOPING
GOOD HOMEWORK AND STUDY HABITS
- Create
an environment that is conducive to doing homework. Youngsters need a
permanent work space in their bedroom or another part of the home that
offers privacy.
- Set aside
ample time for homework.
- Establish a
household rule that the TV set stays off during homework time.
- Be available
to answer questions and offer assistance, but never do a child's homework
for her.
- Take
steps to help alleviate eye fatigue, neck fatigue and brain fatigue
while studying. It may be helpful to close the books for a few minutes,
stretch, and take a break periodically when it will not be too
disruptive.
- If
your child is struggling with a particular subject, and you aren't able
to help her yourself, a tutor can be a good solution. Talk it over with
your child's teacher first.
© 2008 - American Academy of Pediatrics
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